As with most things, being in a relationship requires some form of compromise.
At some point, you and your partner will have to talk about compromise – and whether there’s room for it.
Compromise can be defined as “an agreement or settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions”. No two people in a relationship are identical. There will always be differences in the parties’ likes, dislikes, goals, priorities and preferences.
Choosing to make room for differences
Therefore, this is where compromise comes in. The question highlighted in this article is, “Should there be room for compromise in a relationship?”
When you find that special someone who meshes with your personality and makes you feel complete, the question of ‘compromise’ in the relationship will eventually surface.
A small dose of compromise isn’t bad at all. In fact, it can smoothen rough edges and will not threaten a person’s deepest desires, needs and wants. This is if the compromise is mutually agreed upon.
A healthy relationship allows each person to grow both individually and in the relationship. When compromising, you should know the value or cost of doing so. Compromise, however, has its healthy limit. It’s important that neither you nor your partner cross it.
In a healthy relationship, you won’t need to compromise on these things
1. Your professional and personal life goals
Do not compromise your bigger goals in life, whether it has to do with your career or personal growth. A supportive partner will help you to accomplish them and not keep you from living your dreams.
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2. Your beliefs and values
Your beliefs and values are the basis of what makes you, you. These are the things that help you to live life. For example, you are a vegan and your partner is not. You don’t have to compromise your diet choices in order to stay in the relationship. Also, your partner does not need to subscribe to a vegan diet. Respect each other’s choices, and celebrate your differences.
3. Your friends
A supportive lover doesn’t get in the way of one’s social life with his group of friends. If there’s a solid level of trust in a relationship, partners will not only be okay with outings sans the other, they’ll encourage it.
If your partner is making you give up your friendships, it may be a sign of insecurity and distrust.
4. Your family
Sometimes, it’s easy to feel pressure to distance yourself from your family when in a new relationship. But a loving partner will accept your family, the good and bad, without question.
If your partner doesn’t want you to visit any of your family members, or doesn’t seek to spend time with them, it may be an indication of a future problem. It’s best you sort it out immediately.
A good relationship is open to compromise but a good relationship doesn’t require a sacrifice of big things dear to your heart.
What do you think? Should there be room for compromise in a relationship? Share your thoughts by writing in the comment section below.
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