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Why Motherhood is Hard: A Man’s Perspective

Published on 11 May 2018|
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Mother’s Day is just around the corner and it’s as good a time as any to remind ourselves just how hard motherhood can be.

by Stanley P, Carrybeans

Mother’s Day was first celebrated and initiated in 1908 by Anna Jarvis in honour of her mother.  Now, the whole world over celebrates Mother’s Day every second week of May.

It is no secret that being a mother is no easy task.  There are countless sacrifices to be made and honestly speaking, motherhood isn’t something that anyone can easily swing.  So, in honour of all mothers out there, let us clarify a few reasons why being a mother is so challenging.

1. It is physically draining

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Forget about taking care of children; just the pregnancy alone is a physically taxing experience.  The body will undergo changes and some of it will last way past pregnancy.  And then comes the childbirth.  They literally have to push another human being out of themselves, and we don’t have to be pregnant to imagine how that must feel.  Not convinced?  Just ask some of these men.

After the little human arrives, mothers (and, of course, fathers) can look forward to taking care of a baby (and eventually a young adult) for the next 20 years or so.

And this brings us to our next point…

2. Mothers don’t get enough rest

If everything goes well during childbirth, you will have yourself a brand new baby.  But the hardship isn’t anywhere near over as you will now be responsible for a tiny human being.  And man, are tiny human beings a handful!

Imagine waking up at 3:00 AM in the morning and having to change your child’s smelly diaper.  And just when you think it’s over, the little human starts crying again an hour later, demanding to be fed.  These are all normal everyday occurrences when you’re a mother.  So, say goodbye to eight hours of sleep and say hello to short naps you can sneak when your baby finally dozes off.

3. Health issues

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I’ve watched enough Grey’s Anatomy to know that there are many things that can go wrong during pregnancy and childbirth.  Preterm labour, babies in the breech position, infections, and miscarriages are just a few among the many health complications that can occur.  And the fact that there are women who value motherhood enough to still dare to go through it all is just amazing.

Another health issue strife among mothers is postpartum depression.  Postpartum depression is a common health issue that affects one in five mothers.  Sadly to this day, there is still a lot of stigma surrounding the issue.  Mothers (as well as fathers) suffering from postpartum depression may find themselves depressed, fatigued, suicidal, and/or unable to think and make clear decisions.  Fortunately, postpartum depression is highly treatable.  So, if you’re exhibiting symptoms, we encourage you to make an appointment with a mental health professional.

4. The insecurities

“If I can hardly take care of myself, how am I supposed to take care of another human?”

That is probably what many mothers out there think when they first enter motherhood.  Then, after childbirth, many mothers may find themselves insecure about their post-pregnancy bodies.  On top of that, mothers will always be prone to worrying, whether it is about raising their child or being a ‘bad mom’.

Well, if you’re a mom, let me be the one to tell you: you’re doing just fine!  Take it a step at a time and if you’re struggling, there is no shame in asking for help.  And those stretchmarks?  Those are battle scars that show you successfully birthed another human being into the world, which is an impressive feat in and of itself.

5. Less time to themselves

Between taking care of a child and having a career, many mothers struggle to find time to relax and do the things outside their job as a mother.  Many mothers become so busy after having children that they hardly get enough time to even rest.  For some, taking care of their children and their household is a full-time job.

Cheers to the mothers out there

Again, being a mother is not a walk in the park.  It is definitely hard as it’s physically and mentally taxing for mothers, both new and experienced.  But I believe many of them would agree that being a mother is one of the most rewarding things that they have experienced in their lives

So, to all mothers out there, Happy Mother’s Day and thank you for all of the work and sacrifices you made in raising us!

Being a mother is hard.  But that doesn’t mean that you can’t be glamourous and a mother at the same time.  Here are some tips to becoming a fashionista mommy!

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