Do you remember what happened when Ben Stiller met his girlfriend’s family for the first time in Meet the Parents?
Girls, chances of something like that actually happening in real life is slim, but it is true that the first encounter with your boyfriend’s parents is actually a nerve-wracking one!
We’ve all heard advice for men looking to make an impression with their lady’s family, but what about tips for us girls? In Asian cultures, especially, meeting his parents can be quite the experience.
Questions like “What if they don’t like me?”, “What if I don’t like them?”, “What if I can’t impress them enough?”, the list goes on, keep on playing in your head.
If the thought of meeting them gives you a minor panic attack; calm down as we bring you tips for meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time.
Follow the dress code
The first impression is important, not only in terms of the way you speak but also in the way you dress.
Remember to dig some information regarding his parents. Are they conservative ones?
If so, ditch the acid-washed jeans and graphic tee combo and simply go for a nice, knee-length dress. If you were not able to find out what his parents are like, just find something suitable. Hey, we’re not saying to change who you are but slowly does it — find a look that’s you by adding accessories for a glimpse or your fun side.
Avoid conversation pitfalls
Another tip to remember is to try avoiding discussions regarding politics, religion, or lifestyle as it could lead to (potential) unwanted arguments or awkward silences — it’s your first meeting and you don’t know them all that well yet.
As much as you can, be honest with your opinions. If you find yourself on the opposite end of the opinion spectrum, be diplomatic and subtle, or gracefully change the subject.
Manners are important
No matter where you are, no matter who you are speaking to, always remember to have good manners.
When meeting the parents, be polite (always), say ‘please’, ‘thank you’, or ‘may I’ as it makes a difference; be an active listener and show genuine interest in the conversation.
You can also pitch in by offering help to them such as washing the dishes or clearing the table after dinner (now that’s an extra brownie point for good manners!).
Show them how much you care for their son (but don’t go overboard!)
Let his parents know how much you care for their son. You could say nice things about him or even share some funny stories you both have. Simple and sincere displays of affection, such as a kiss on the cheek or gentle ruffle of his hair, will also go a long way.
And err, stay away from making out at the table (unless his parents are doing it themselves!)
Lastly, don’t forget who you are
It’s important for you to just be yourself during the meeting. You want his parents to get to know the real you, not someone else or one that doesn’t exist. Of course, there has to be some sort of control.
For example, you might be an open-minded naturally. However, you might want to control things for a bit in terms of the things you share (not every parent wants to hear about their son’s girlfriend’s dating history). Keep the conversation light, be yourself, and you are good to go!
Care to share us a tip or two? How was your experience like? Share with us in the comments section below.
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