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Crushing on someone? Here’s how to make the first move

Published on 20 January 2018|
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Having a crush on someone is tough, especially with the makan tak kenyang, tidur tak lena, mandi tak basah stuff going on. There are butterflies in your stomach, stolen glances at him, and endless daydreaming of him asking you out.

But what if the guy is shy? Or if he just don’t know that you are into him?

Is this all going to end as a fleeting love, never to be seen again? Well, we say you should start taking charge of your own love life and make the first move!

Yes, we know approaching your crush is nerve-wracking. So, that’s why we have compiled a list on how to make the first move. Read on to know more!


Start by giving him subtle cues

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Subtle cues like eye contact that lasts longer than usual is a great way to start. You can also touch his arm occasionally, and lean a bit closer as you talk to him!


Don’t underestimate the power of mushy pick-up lines

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There’s one of two ways this can go: either he’ll find it totally creepy, or he’ll laugh along with you. In any case, just remember that cheesy pick-up lines are supposed to be just that… cheesy. So, offer it as a way to break the ice and get the conversation going.

If he seems weirded out, just laugh it off and move on to the next topic of conversation.


Make the effort to invite him out for a movie

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Ah, the classic way to ask someone out: inviting them for movie night. Watching movies is great because there’s no eye contact involved between you and both of you are not pressured to talk about something every other minute.

After the movie, both of you can grab something to eat and just talk about the movie to loosen things up. Who knows, maybe you’ll find that you never run out of things to talk about!


Sincerely show him that you care too

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If his body language exhibits signs that he is interested in you, reciprocate. But remember, there is a fine line between desperation and showing interest.

Try to show him that you are interested in him as well, but don’t be too aggressive about it. Talk to him, invite him for lunch, play Dota 2 with him (hey, girls play games too, you know!); whatever you do, just take it slow and see how it develops from there.

At the end of the day, be yourself and don’t do anything you’re uncomfortable with.


How do you plan on making the first move? Share with us in the comments section below.

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