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To err is human; to forgive, divine

Published on 07 August 2018|
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When you forgive, you heal. When you let go, you grow.
By Louise M, Carrybeans

We recently celebrated International Forgiveness Day which falls on the first Sunday of August. It is the brainchild of The Worldwide Forgiveness Alliance whose mission is to evoke the healing spirit of forgiveness worldwide.

Have you been hurt by someone? I’m sure it’s not easy to forgive the person when you’re still feeling some bits of resentment and bitterness. Or what if you have hurt someone? I’m sure it can also be quite difficult for you to ask for forgiveness.

In order to heal from the hurt, we must forgive and be forgiven. It takes a lot of effort to do so, but let’s look at some of the things that forgiveness can do to us.

Benefits of forgiveness

1. Healthier relationship and more friendships

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When forgiveness is a regular part of your life, you’ll eventually notice that all your relationships (with your family, friends, colleagues, etc.) will grow and have less drama. Old relationships change and grow, and new relationships can enter. When you don’t hold grudges, you can get a lot closer to the people around you.

2. Reduced stress

No longer recycling negative thoughts (whether consciously or subconsciously), you’ll feel more at ease when leaving the displeasure behind. This will stabilise your body and bring you into a state of calmness.

3. Fewer anxiety and depression symptoms

You don’t only forgive others, but you forgive yourself too when you’ve done something wrong. Forgiveness helps you to love yourself and rid you of your anxieties. Replace depression with a sense of purpose and compassion.

4. Less hostility and better anger management

To forgive is to let go of hostility towards yourself and others. You can better manage your anger because when you forgive, you also let go of the emotional burden that is weighing you down.

5. Lower risk of alcohol or substance abuse

Don’t turn to alcohol to drown your sorrow and say no to substance abuse to mask your underlying misery. Forgiveness helps us release that pain and find lessons in our situation instead.

6. Improved health and psychological well-being

By letting the pain ease out of your system, it can lower your heart rate and blood pressure. This improves your circulatory system to make you feel more peaceful and happier.

Forgiveness doesn’t always mean forgetting. But to bring a kind of peace that helps you go on with life, it is good to forgive; best to forget. It can be quite a challenge, but if you don’t practice forgiveness you might be the one who pays most dearly.

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