No one likes going through a break-up; they’re painful things we try to avoid (there’s no sugar coating for this one) but oftener than not, it happens to us.
They are painful, unsettling, and sometimes, seemingly impossible to get over. Yes, it’s impossible because after all the heartbreaks, heartaches, and those cute and mushy memories (ha!), it becomes difficult to see the ‘good’ in “goodbye”.
But believe it or not, although breakups are harsh they can sometimes be for our own good.
Well, no more heart-wrenching exaggeration- here are several situations when a breakup may be the best decision you have ever made.
When you realise the person isn’t the right fit for you
If you’re on the receiving end of this sudden revelation, it hurts. A lot. You may cry and ask a million whys after the split-up. However, when you finally realise that the person is not the one (one that you cannot live with for the rest of your life, and more importantly, who doesn’t love you completely), it’ll be easier to accept and move on. Trust us, you can move on to better things!
For those who initiate the break-up after this revelation, it’s easy to think you’re the ‘bad guy’. But if you know that what you chose is the more loving thing for both of you, then accept it and move on. Of course, make sure you explain your reasons and apologise for the hurt caused.
When you realise you’ve been measuring your self-worth based on the relationship
Being loved by somebody else is precious and beautiful, but at the end of the day, it doesn’t validate your existence. Your relationship doesn’t define who you are.
We know that breaking up is difficult, but with time, you will learn that you are worth more than what the world has to offer. Someone once said that “If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.”
When you need to make a decision for your future
Kelly Clarkson actually hits the point when she sang the song-“what doesn’t kill you make you stronger.”
Sometimes, dreams and responsibilities take us down different paths. In the process, we may have to let go of certain relationships. For the first few days, weeks or months after your break-up, we understand that it’ll be tough.
However, once you realise that the pain will go away, that you need to be stronger for the sake of your future and sometimes even for the present (yourself, family, work, friends), you’ll feel much better.
When you learn what you want in life
All of us are at different stages of life, and our priority lists differ. For some, a career choice may be what you always wanted to go for. Others are planning a cross-country trip, or want to see the world. Sometimes, these mean having to let go of a relationship and if you are at peace with that decision, it is your own to make.
After all, it is way better to be single rather than to be in a relationship with two unhappy people.
We all don’t wish for anyone to go through a break-up, but sometimes they can just mean something better is around the corner. If you’ve any personal experiences or advice to share, please do so in the comments section below.
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