If you managed to be in a serious relationship in the middle of your 20s, congratulations!
Your twenties can be a difficult stage in life: finding yourself while being entwined with someone is very difficult and stressful.
Experts say that there’s a higher chance that relationships in your 20s won’t turn out the way you want it to be. You’re still young and have a lot of things going on to fully comprehend how you will deal with your partner.
Additionally, dating comes with a lot of baggage especially when you’re young and have a lot of growing up to do, either emotionally or financially. You will find yourself constantly in self-pity, and feeling inadequate while disregarding how that person’s contribution is molding you.
If you feel as though you are the only one dealing with your shortcomings, you are not with the right person and it’s time to call it quits. The good thing about being single is that you slowly mold yourself to the person you want to be.
You become stronger, wiser and more self-sufficient. Here are 10 reasons why being single in your 20s is a good thing:
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You collect experiences and start drafting your dream love story.
The dating pool in your 20s will for sure be hectic. You will find romantic and sexual prospects left and right because you are surrounded by a lot of people most of the time, whether you’re in college or just starting out with a new job. You’re mingling with more people than you will ever be. You will find yourself drafting your own love story based on your encounters, and this will be the foundation and criteria should you decide to settle later on.
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You can be uninterested in long-term commitments.
And no one will speculate if you are going to be forever alone. Let’s be real, you’re only in your 20s. Those folks need to simmer down!
You’re not going to be the odd one out and be that one “Single Friend”.
Chances are, most of your friends are single, too. Take it easy and don’t be too hard on yourself.
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You don’t need the approval of anyone when you want to travel. You’re free to book flights, pack your bags, and go. Plus, you get to meet lots of sexual and romantic prospects. Remember, your love story need not be confined in where you live. It’s a big world, after all. So go and expand your horizon.
You get to have a lot of time for self-discovery.
Instead of wasting time why your partner is acting up, you’ll be able to spend time discovering who you really are. Why waste your energy in making a relationship work and deciphering the complexity of one’s mind when you can have the time to actually figure out what you want? This will also help you find “that” person you want to be with one day.
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You get to enjoy dating apps more.
Let’s be real, “swiping” these days is fun. You get to the scheme through a pool of people searching for dates or company, and you don’t need to worry whether they’re going to be a great partner. It’s pretty laid back but just do a bit of screening prior to meeting up to avoid dating creeps.
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Your investments are all yours.
People who find themselves in a passionate relationship in their 20s stem from financial convenience. As previously stated, relationships in the early 20s rarely pan out. This leads to uncomfortable discussions of who gets what. When you’re single, you don’t have to deal with that. Your savings and everything you own are all yours! No one can take them away from you because you are self-sufficient enough to gain them on your own.
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You can be selfish and it’s fine.
Truth be told, when you’re in the 20s, it’s OK to be selfish. This is the time before you actually start a family, have a mortgage, and at the peak of your career. When you’re this young, you have the liberty to mind your own well-being in the healthiest way possible. You’re able to get life satisfaction without having to worry about someone else’s.
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You can focus on your career.
Being single means you can focus on you and your future. You don’t have to stress and bother about setting up date nights. You can focus all your energy on career advancement and be where you want to be. True, it may be lonesome at times but note that you’re only in your 20s – all of your efforts will pay off and you’ll have the financial capacity to date anyone without having to depend on someone else’s pocket.
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Most importantly, you learn to love yourself.
You may have heard this from almost anyone, but it’s true. You can’t love someone else until you learn to love yourself. When you are in a serious and passionate relationship in your 20s, you tend to overlook to grow your self-worth. You’re too focused on ensuring that your significant other is happy so much to the point that you are forgetting your own happiness. Being single in your 20s gives you a lot of time to find yourself.
Now, those quiet nights binge watching Netflix will really allow you to discover who you really are and what you want in life.