They say that marriages are made in heaven but there are some that are made here on earth.
And, these unions are known as arranged marriages.
Arranged marriages are still happening today. While they often get a bad rep, there are couples brought together by custom or family choice who love each other wholeheartedly.
In arranged marriages that work, the two individuals manage to develop their love for one another. Also, as we all know, not all “un-arranged” marriages work so we cannot really discriminate either concept.
For those of you who are going to have an arranged marriage or perhaps, you are already in one, here are some of the things that you can do in order to kindle romance in an arranged marriage.
Communication is the key
A perfect marriage is when two imperfect people refuse to give up on each other.
We can’t deny the fact that communication is the essential key to a successful (arranged) marriage.
One downside of an arranged marriage is that both individuals do not have the opportunity to get to know much about each other before getting married. They have to start from square one, or two, when the knot is tied.
Hence, communication between you and your partner is compulsory! As a couple who don’t know much about each other yet, through communication, you will learn to tackle crisis together, discuss difficult topics with an open mind, respect and value each other’s opinions.
Be inquisitive with each other
It might sound like an overboard idea but, you have to let curiosity to take over. Be eager, show sincere interest in your partner’s life, ask questions (both serious or casual)!
Being a little inquisitive will help you both learn new things every now and then. By doing so, you will learn more about each other – likes, dislikes, goals, expectations. It will help you understand your partner better, and grow in your love.
Don’t rush into things
Never rush into things- especially, when you are in an arranged marriage. Both of you may be uncertain because hey, it’s something new. The feeling of love cannot be rushed so remember to take your time, and let love grow.
Once you’re in, remember that both of you are still adjusting to this new living arrangement and partnership. Have a heart to heart talk with your partner, discuss your dislikes, fears and pet peeves. You and your partner are still in the phase of learning more about each other so it is only natural to face conflict. Remember to battle the issue, and not make your partner the issue.
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